Okay, so it’s been another week between posts. Honestly, I’m not TRYING to be a weekly blogger! TRULY!!!
It’s just been kinda busy actually. I find myself spending some time looking at the dating websites trying to sift between the BS and the RP (real people). I have come across a couple cool ladies… maybe I shouldn’t write about them because who knows, they may find me out here… but then again, I’d never say anything (or names) that would be bad for anything other than topics for discussion. Because in reality, this is about my journey, not theirs. Sure, they play a part, but the underlying notion here is that of my perception on life and how I’m living it and how I want to live it. Did ANY of that make sense?
Anyway, I’ve been in contact with a couple people that seem super cool. I’m actually meeting one of them for a beer and dinner tonight. Going to a great restaurant that serves super food and brews their own. This particular lady is a volleyballer, golfer and softballer… and that just ranks right up there with me. I love playing all three. Love them. Anyway, she seems super down to earth and I’ve enjoyed getting to know her. We’ll see how tonight goes but I think it will be good.
I’ll talk about the others as things either develop or they don’t. But, for now, we’ll just say they’re all beautiful ladies who have very distinct personalities and who have all been very forthright in their profiles as to what they are looking for in a partner.
This is something I find very refreshing. It’s nice to know what people want up front. I’ve been able to weed out the girls who don’t fit my lifestyle or attitude towards life in a fairly swift manner. I REALLY like that aspect of these websites. I like being able to control how fast I can talk to someone if I’m a little leery of their profile.
And as a LARGE side note… (and this really isn’t a rant, but it makes sense to me)… if you sign up for one of these websites, it is my humble opinion that you should be required to put up a picture. NOW, with that being said, I understand why some people do not choose to put their pix up. You might not have a digital camera (the websites offer the services to digitally scan a pic for you if you’ll send it to them), you do not have a recent one (get one), or you do not feel that you are “attractive” enough to have people be interested in you because of your pic. The first two I don’t give another thought to. There are options, use them. As for the third… and I’m TRULY not intending to be harsh here… if you really feel that way, are you in a postion mentally and emotionally to start a relationship? And do you know why I can ask that question? Because there was definitely a time when I wouldn’t have been able to do that. And at that same time, I wouldn’t have been ready to start a new relationship.
Now, to play Devil’s Advocate against my logic and what I’ve said up there… There might be a physically and emotionally beautiful person behind that blank icon. I have no doubt that some of the women I’ve been match up with fall within this category. But it’s a fact on these sites that your chances at meeting someone increase 10 fold if you put up any kind of a RECENT pic. If you’re overweight, you think you’re less than “attractive”, or whatever… who cares? Put up a recent picture and you WILL get interest.
And my second pet peeve is… take the time to fill out your profile. Besides your picture, it’s your first impression. Make it say what YOU want to say. I’ve read some that sound like a sales pitch. I could buy a mail-order bride if I wanted… but I want a real person who has real wants, real desires, and who doesn’t come across as this perfect little angel and who doesn’t understand why she hasn’t found Mr. Right yet. Well hon, that’s why…
Okay, now I’m getting off on tangents and all that stuff. To bring it back around to where it probably should have gone a page ago, I’m happy with what I’ve posted. I’m happy with the pictures I’ve put up. I’ve put up pix from 2 days ago when I was out golfing (and I’ll post one here too). I’ve also put up pix from last July when I weighed so much more. I also made reference to WHY I put my “fat” pix up. Because I’m damn proud of how hard I’ve worked. I put these pix up to remind myself, NOT these potential interests.
Enough outta me. I’ll post how my night went hopefully tomorrow. I have to go to the dentist for a little work at 1:30 tomorrow and then I’m off on Friday. My Dad and I always watch some of the men’s NCAA basketball tourney while having a beer and some food at a great establishment with oodles of tv’s. This weekend will consist of me playing a little EQ2 and cleaning the house. My buddy Scott is house-sitting for me next week as I will be in Sacrament, CA for training. I’m a clean guy and keep a clean house 90% of the time so it won’t be bad to tidy up… but it still needs to be done.
Hope everyone has a great day and rest of the week. CHEERS!
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